How to Talk About Sex

How to Talk About Sex: The Art of Sultry & Sacred Conversations

There is a great unraveling taking place in the way we speak of sex. The old narratives are collapsing, dissolving into the ether like a language we no longer recognise. For centuries, we have spoken of sex in whispers, in rigid scripts, or not at all. We have either sterilised it into mere biology or shrouded it in taboo, making it something to be avoided, feared, or conquered.

But what if sex is not simply an act, nor a duty, nor a forbidden pleasure? What if sex is a language—one we have never been taught to read fluently? What if it is a portal—one we have been too conditioned to step through?

This is the conversation that Sultry & Sacred is here to ignite. Not to regurgitate the same tired discussions of technique, mechanics, or moral prescriptions, but to restore the alchemy of the erotic—to place sex back where it belongs, at the threshold of the divine and the deeply human.

Unlearning First: The Deconstruction of Sexual Myths

We must begin at the roots. Sex, as we know it, has been programmed into us through centuries of conditioning.

In the West, sex education was designed not to illuminate, but to control—structured around fear, prevention, and the avoidance of unwanted consequences. The curriculum was never designed to explore pleasure, intimacy, or soul-deep connection. It was a barricade, not a gateway.

In many religious cultures, the conversation is even more constrained—sex is taught not as an experience of the self, but as an obligation to another. It is a means of preserving family honor, of fulfilling marital duties, of adhering to divine decree. There is no space for sex to exist beyond these rigid constructs.

And so, we find ourselves at an impasse. A world where people know more about sex than ever before—and yet are more disconnected from their own erotic truth than ever before.

Sex as a Language: Becoming Fluent in the Erotic

What if we re-learned sex as a language—one that speaks through sensation, desire, tension, surrender?

Each of us has a unique Erotic Signature—a personal code that determines how we experience pleasure, how we communicate desire, how we relate to intimacy. But without erotic literacy, we stumble in the dark, unaware of our own nature and unable to articulate our needs.

To speak this language fluently, we must first listen. What does our body long for? What fears cloud our desire? What unspoken scripts have shaped our sexuality?

Sex as a Portal: The Forgotten Mysticism of the Erotic

Ancient traditions understood what we have forgotten.

In Tantra, sex was not simply about pleasure—it was a means of merging with the divine, a gateway to transcendence. In alchemy, it was the Hieros Gamos, the sacred marriage of opposites, the alchemical fusion of spirit and flesh. In Kemetic cosmology, sex was a force of cosmic creation—a current through which the divine expresses itself in human form.

But today, we treat sex as either a commodity or a conflict. It is either hyper-commercialised, reduced to instant gratification, or pathologised, something to be regulated and controlled. Sultry & Sacred is here to reclaim the lost dimension of sexuality—the erotic as a gateway to power, to transformation, to the divine.

Normalising Complexity: Making Space for Paradox

Sex is not one-dimensional. It exists in paradox—pleasure and pain, control and surrender, shadow and light. Our desires are not always neat, nor do they always conform to what we have been told is ‘acceptable’. The more we suppress the truth of our erotic nature, the more it rebels in the unconscious, emerging as shame, secrecy, or compulsion.

To talk about sex in a way that is real, raw, and transformative, we must create space for these contradictions. The erotic mind is not something to be tamed—it is something to be understood.

The Erotic Mind: Sex, Shadow, and the Unconscious

Carl Jung taught that whatever remains unconscious rules us from the shadows. Nowhere is this more evident than in sexuality.

Our desires, our turn-ons, our aversions—these are not just random impulses. They are deeply rooted in our childhood conditioning, emotional imprints, and unprocessed wounds. Some desires arise from a place of freedom; others from a place of repression, longing, or pain.

To truly understand our sexuality, we must ask: What is erotic to me, and why? What fears, wounds, or unspoken narratives shape my desires? Where do I give my power away, and where do I reclaim it?

Sex is not separate from psychology. It is an extension of it. Sultry & Sacred is here to explore not just what turns us on—but what our turn-ons reveal about us.

Sex Without Judgment: Creating a Space for Real Conversations

Most discussions around sex are steeped in judgment—either moral, clinical, or performative. Sultry & Sacred is not here to prescribe, but to explore.

We do not ask: What is right or wrong? We ask: What is true? What is real? What is hidden?

We do not seek to tell people what to believe about sex. We invite them to discover their own erotic truth—beyond the conditioning, beyond the programming, beyond the shame.

Sultry & Sacred: The Beginning of a New Conversation

The world does not need another sex podcast. The world needs a new mythology of the erotic. And that is what Sultry & Sacred is here to create.

This is not about sex as you have been taught to understand it. This is about sex as it has always been—the great initiator, the sacred current, the fire of creation itself.

And now, under the light of the New Moon, this new conversation begins.

Join us.

Listen to Sultry & Sacred. Let the unraveling begin.